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“I don’t have capacity.”
Yes, gotta use the right words if you want to communicate effectively.
Yes you use the word “No”
Anything more invites discussion.
Alternatively, “No” is a complete sentence.
Not when your lack of spoons is compounded by social anxiety…
Sometimes I want a hug from someone that can afford one, but instead I’m giving out hugs to everyone else that needs it. And that’s just these unplanned days.
Sometimes it’s those that can’t afford the hug, that need one the most…?
I figure I don’t have time unless I get 8 hours of sleep and still have the time. This never happens, so the answer is “never”.
So why not day “I’d like to, but I’m exhausted.”
This sounds like not knowing how to communicate rather than an add problem.
Im still trying to teach myself this. I fill up my schedule with tasks that I will easily be able to complete in one day as long as I dont get distracted for 5 hours researching something irrelevent and then I feel horrible by the end of the day. I just need to remind myself to account for it :)
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You don’t have the time if that “empty” time is allocated for recovery. Downtime is not free time.
Time allotted for rest is still time that is already accounted for which is unable to be spent elsewhere.
There shouldn’t be any confusion.
If your schedule is not actually fully booked you have the time, ADHD or not…you don’t have the energy, which is something entirely different, but also valid.
People don’t always speak literally. So trying to be pedantic about the literal meaning of “time” when they were using it non-lierally doesn’t make you more right.
They conveyed “no” which was the actual important part of the message
Saying you have no time when it’s actually lack of energy is just poor communication skills, it’s not about being literal.
If the message they’re communicating is “no” and not the exact details of why they’re saying no, “I don’t have time” is perfectly adequate. Everyone isn’t entitled to the exact details of why someone is refusing to do something. I’m not telling you if I’m refusing because I have severe diarrhea.
I would argue saying anything except “No” is poor communication skills.
If you aren’t willing to negotiate then don’t give them anything to negotiate on.
