I didn’t make some objective judgement one way or the other. I laid out reasons why a relationship may take “fighting”, work, or effort that wouldn’t be as necessary in shorter term relationships. I also stated my preference for longer term ones.
That said, I think it may be a little telling that you jumped to defend your lifestyle choices when they weren’t attacked.
I guess that’s my point i was making in this thread, conflating effort and fight is a big problem in US culture and a foundation of the kill or be killed mentality.
Some people value duration in relationships, others don’t. There’s not one, right way to be in a relationship, and one isn’t better than the other.
I didn’t make some objective judgement one way or the other. I laid out reasons why a relationship may take “fighting”, work, or effort that wouldn’t be as necessary in shorter term relationships. I also stated my preference for longer term ones.
That said, I think it may be a little telling that you jumped to defend your lifestyle choices when they weren’t attacked.
I guess that’s my point i was making in this thread, conflating effort and fight is a big problem in US culture and a foundation of the kill or be killed mentality.