I think you’re trying to make this more binary than it needs to be.
If they’re born mentally disabled, I will love and care for them and do my best to provide them all the opportunities life has to offer. If I can prevent them from being born with a debilitating illness, I will do my best to do so
WTF? That’s not only ableism, that’s basically nazi eugenics, claiming that disabled people are less entitled to life than able-bodied children.
No, I won’t kill my child due to disability. I will love my child no matter if they are disabled or not. I am not an ableist bigot.
I think you’re trying to make this more binary than it needs to be.
If they’re born mentally disabled, I will love and care for them and do my best to provide them all the opportunities life has to offer. If I can prevent them from being born with a debilitating illness, I will do my best to do so