An asshole in the child services department. My kid’s other parent was over heard talking about a dream involving me. It was taken as fact. I will told I was not allowed contact or face prison time. Because of this I sought to terminate my parental rights. The same person told my ex that I wanted nothing to do with my kid and they should never contact me.
I met my kid the day after birth, stayed for 2 days before I had to get back home. We lived about 500 miles apart at the time. I had already moved 2000 miles to be closer to them after they left college.
That’s a really big part of the issue to me. How many people does people here know, that are still together with their high school girlfriend/boyfriend? I’m not saying it doesn’t happen, but a LOT changes throughout the 20’s.
I’d say it’s closer to 50/50. Immature or unprepared parents can absolutely wreck a childhood; if all they have is money, you can expect either an arrogant little shit or a kid with lots of mental health problems.
Because you’ve got about as good of odds to have a good and lasting relationship at that age as you do of winning a large lottery sum.
It’s a stupid gamble.
He can just bail and pay child support when it gets difficult, she’ll be saddled with raising the kid - or just as likely OP will end up with the kid most of the time while she fucks off and does whatever. Party, school, or work. Even if they stay together she’s just a (maybe) high school graduate beholden to the guy and the family money. That’s what the odds vastly favor.
Anything else is wishful thinking, what might happen. Hey, I hope I’m wrong, but these two are already idiots of this is as far as their thought processes went. “Just live off the family money and bang out a kid…” is stupid.
This sounds like unplanned parenthood and it’s especially awful for teenager, and can be extra wrecking for OP’s daughter. There’s always stress involved when raising kids. OP’s infuriated probably because he know their mindset haven’t mature yet, and his daugher will get the short end of the stick if the marriage doesn’t worked out since the inlaw is rich.
Sounds great, what’s the problem?
19 and 17 year olds being parents sounds terrible to me. Kids raising kids.
It’s a decision but I’m predicting issues
I was 19 when my first was born. Can say it wrecked my life for years, and I was not even legally allowed to see him for 16 years.
What happened that you were not even allowed to see him? Generally that only happens in cases of abuse where I’m from.
An asshole in the child services department. My kid’s other parent was over heard talking about a dream involving me. It was taken as fact. I will told I was not allowed contact or face prison time. Because of this I sought to terminate my parental rights. The same person told my ex that I wanted nothing to do with my kid and they should never contact me.
I met my kid the day after birth, stayed for 2 days before I had to get back home. We lived about 500 miles apart at the time. I had already moved 2000 miles to be closer to them after they left college.
Let’s be real, 85% of the problem with being a young parent is money. The other 15% is maturity. With 85% of the problem solved it won’t be so bad
It’s also a really new relationship and people change a lot at that age. I’m worried but hopefully they’ll be alright
That’s a really big part of the issue to me. How many people does people here know, that are still together with their high school girlfriend/boyfriend? I’m not saying it doesn’t happen, but a LOT changes throughout the 20’s.
I’d say it’s closer to 50/50. Immature or unprepared parents can absolutely wreck a childhood; if all they have is money, you can expect either an arrogant little shit or a kid with lots of mental health problems.
Because you’ve got about as good of odds to have a good and lasting relationship at that age as you do of winning a large lottery sum.
It’s a stupid gamble.
He can just bail and pay child support when it gets difficult, she’ll be saddled with raising the kid - or just as likely OP will end up with the kid most of the time while she fucks off and does whatever. Party, school, or work. Even if they stay together she’s just a (maybe) high school graduate beholden to the guy and the family money. That’s what the odds vastly favor.
Anything else is wishful thinking, what might happen. Hey, I hope I’m wrong, but these two are already idiots of this is as far as their thought processes went. “Just live off the family money and bang out a kid…” is stupid.
Is that you, every republican lawmaker?
This sounds like unplanned parenthood and it’s especially awful for teenager, and can be extra wrecking for OP’s daughter. There’s always stress involved when raising kids. OP’s infuriated probably because he know their mindset haven’t mature yet, and his daugher will get the short end of the stick if the marriage doesn’t worked out since the inlaw is rich.