for the rest of us that might feel like the guy i replied to, find a mixed gender hobby that lets you meet on a semi regular basis
Ok so you can’t ask a woman out (politely, respectfully, and if it seems like she may be interested) at the gym, but can at a “mixed gender hobby,” but then I’ve also heard reports of not wanting to be asked out while trying to enjoy their hobby elsewhere.
Not that it matters to me, my hobby is walking in the woods taking pictures of cool nature shit, so they’d rather I was a bear and last thing I want to do is freak someone out, I’m more scared of them than they are of me (maybe I am a bear oh fuck.)
stop trying so hard to get laid
I don’t try hard and I do get laid, I have a FWB that wouldn’t work out as a relationship but who says we can’t have fun?
get a relationship
Also not trying for that (at all really, it seems most people are scared of interacting without the assistance of paid spyware that I won’t install on my phone, and I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable so as a guy I just don’t really talk to women while out and about at all) but it would be nice to one day love and feel loved again, I don’t miss the girl that used to anymore, but sometimes I do miss the feeling itself.
and just have fun
I mean, I do, what else is there to do? But people are capable of having fun and also feeling sad sometimes. I know I’m not supposed to admit we have those and yes I’m “lame” or whatever but this is a pseudononymous internet forum so who cares.
the difference is in hobby situations you can start a convo about said hobby though you might still get shot down quickly, hopefully no one would be swooping in to save someone from a hobby convo
no promises though lol
the most successful guy i knew in college was sleezy as shit and just asked every women he met and just didn’t care what they thought about it
I mean sure, we can talk about hobby things, but there does seem to be a proverbial line drawn at the mention of any possible romantic interest at hobby places just like there is at the gym. Sure it’s easier to get a convo started, but it’s still said to be rude to turn the convo towards the possibility of seeing each other for just a date as they’re “just trying to enjoy their hobby and you shouldn’t be here to meet women anyway you creep we have to deal with this everywhere…” and fair enough but that’s because:
the most successful guy i knew in college was sleezy as shit and just asked every women he met and just didn’t care what they thought about it
So now respectful people have literally no recourse because women are complaining about your “successful friend” there, we either have to become the exact thing that helps create the problem and feels skeevy to those not already inclined, or go to the bar (in this economy?!), or pay for spyware apps to sell my data in the hopes I’ll be one of the 5% of men who have success with those apps and then double hope I’m in the infinitely smaller percentage of people that can find actual love instead of hook ups on the hook up app. We’re all aware of the Boomhauer technique man, we just don’t want to use it because despite being “lonely” which seems to be a pejorative for “loser who would like love in his life” these days it’s hard to change who you fundamentally are as a person just hoping one day you harass just the right lady at the damn Publix.
(Different guy, but)
Ok so you can’t ask a woman out (politely, respectfully, and if it seems like she may be interested) at the gym, but can at a “mixed gender hobby,” but then I’ve also heard reports of not wanting to be asked out while trying to enjoy their hobby elsewhere.
Not that it matters to me, my hobby is walking in the woods taking pictures of cool nature shit, so they’d rather I was a bear and last thing I want to do is freak someone out, I’m more scared of them than they are of me (maybe I am a bear oh fuck.)
I don’t try hard and I do get laid, I have a FWB that wouldn’t work out as a relationship but who says we can’t have fun?
Also not trying for that (at all really, it seems most people are scared of interacting without the assistance of paid spyware that I won’t install on my phone, and I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable so as a guy I just don’t really talk to women while out and about at all) but it would be nice to one day love and feel loved again, I don’t miss the girl that used to anymore, but sometimes I do miss the feeling itself.
I mean, I do, what else is there to do? But people are capable of having fun and also feeling sad sometimes. I know I’m not supposed to admit we have those and yes I’m “lame” or whatever but this is a pseudononymous internet forum so who cares.
i get that reading the room can be hard for some of us but I assure you it is easier to tell when in a hobby environment than at a gym
that said do what you want but I’m not surprised people get weird over pickups in a gym
Full disclosure I do not go to the gym at all lol, but I’d believe that. Doesn’t mean it’s welcome in hobby situations.
the difference is in hobby situations you can start a convo about said hobby though you might still get shot down quickly, hopefully no one would be swooping in to save someone from a hobby convo
no promises though lol
the most successful guy i knew in college was sleezy as shit and just asked every women he met and just didn’t care what they thought about it
I mean sure, we can talk about hobby things, but there does seem to be a proverbial line drawn at the mention of any possible romantic interest at hobby places just like there is at the gym. Sure it’s easier to get a convo started, but it’s still said to be rude to turn the convo towards the possibility of seeing each other for just a date as they’re “just trying to enjoy their hobby and you shouldn’t be here to meet women anyway you creep we have to deal with this everywhere…” and fair enough but that’s because:
So now respectful people have literally no recourse because women are complaining about your “successful friend” there, we either have to become the exact thing that helps create the problem and feels skeevy to those not already inclined, or go to the bar (in this economy?!), or pay for spyware apps to sell my data in the hopes I’ll be one of the 5% of men who have success with those apps and then double hope I’m in the infinitely smaller percentage of people that can find actual love instead of hook ups on the hook up app. We’re all aware of the Boomhauer technique man, we just don’t want to use it because despite being “lonely” which seems to be a pejorative for “loser who would like love in his life” these days it’s hard to change who you fundamentally are as a person just hoping one day you harass just the right lady at the damn Publix.