• vapordays@leminal.space
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    1 day ago

    The secret here is to not listen to the faceless crowd about never asking people out or whatever. Don’t be pushy but ultimately we have to talk to people in public if we’re sincerely interested, even if they “might” (who knows?) not want to be approached. Just have to accept if they reject, and move on.

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      1 day ago

      I’m never pushy that’s for sure, always accept no for an answer. Like I said barely even give them the chance to say no cause I don’t ask lol. (That sounds bad, ykwim dammit!)

      Maybe you’re right though, I should be less hesitant. Still hate to upset people if it can be avoided though.

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        Don’t get me wrong, I need to take my own advice more often, but here it continues: You can’t just worry about people getting upset if you try to talk to them. If they get upset, and you didn’t even physically touch them or pressure them to do anything, it’s probably not your fault (although could reflect on what to do different next time if you want) but that’s when to just move on. People “could” get upset about anything in the world. Don’t be forever alone because of the possibility of your existence upsetting someone