As a 33 year old, I went on a date with a 22 year old and yeah I just couldn’t. I felt like I was babysitting. I can date a guy 20 years older but no one younger than me
no, they are arbitrary bullshit you tell yourself to make you feel like you have control or give you ready made excuses to keep making the same mistakes, over and over and over, rather than trying something different that might make you genuinely happy.
someone’s age, or height, or amount of income/wealth isn’t going to make you happy and fulfilled. but you tell yourself it will because it feels like it’s something you can control. of course, the irony being the other person could just lie about those things…
Soo you need more energy to party and keep up with them BUT the key is finding a young one that doesn’t know what a healthy relationship looks like. That way you save on having to put effort into the relationship and support them and all that other stuff you need to do with a mature partner
Eh. I’m pretty introverted and I still went drinking, dancing etc. regularly in my early 20s. I don’t go out at all nowadays due to health issues and generally lower energy levels.
i’m 40 and I have lost all interest in dating anyone of any age… because the return on investment of my time/energy just never happens. It just feels like I’m gambling and hoping I’ll get a jackpot, but all I’m doing is throwing away money and time that would be better invested in other things.
and when I made the choice to stop prioritizing dating/relationships/friends… my life vastly improved and it does feel like I hit the jackpot. and now I just end up meeting people who are still addicting to gambling and looking for me to be their ‘get out of depression/debt/misery’ jackpot.
I’m 40, I couldn’t fathom the effort required to date anyone under the age of 25
I’m in my mid 40s and my hard limit is 30. I’m thinking of raising that to 35 after a few bad relationships.
As a 33 year old, I went on a date with a 22 year old and yeah I just couldn’t. I felt like I was babysitting. I can date a guy 20 years older but no one younger than me
I know these are just general limits nothing concrete but I just imagined ya rejecting a guy cuz he was born one picosecond after you.
Standards are standards.
no, they are arbitrary bullshit you tell yourself to make you feel like you have control or give you ready made excuses to keep making the same mistakes, over and over and over, rather than trying something different that might make you genuinely happy.
someone’s age, or height, or amount of income/wealth isn’t going to make you happy and fulfilled. but you tell yourself it will because it feels like it’s something you can control. of course, the irony being the other person could just lie about those things…
Daddy chill
I wanted to say you’d save that word for me but i’m actually a year younger. Guess i’ll seduce ur mom so you legally have to call me dad
age has nothing to do with it.
someone who was immature and selfish at 30, is going to be worse at 40. people dont grow out of who they are, they just become more of what they are.
Soo you need more energy to party and keep up with them BUT the key is finding a young one that doesn’t know what a healthy relationship looks like. That way you save on having to put effort into the relationship and support them and all that other stuff you need to do with a mature partner
Wait, I was supposed to do that?
I refused to date people under 25 when I was 29, but got offended that a 40 year old would not date bellow 30.
The energy required is more a reflection of their extrovertedness, not young age
Eh. I’m pretty introverted and I still went drinking, dancing etc. regularly in my early 20s. I don’t go out at all nowadays due to health issues and generally lower energy levels.
i’m 40 and I have lost all interest in dating anyone of any age… because the return on investment of my time/energy just never happens. It just feels like I’m gambling and hoping I’ll get a jackpot, but all I’m doing is throwing away money and time that would be better invested in other things.
and when I made the choice to stop prioritizing dating/relationships/friends… my life vastly improved and it does feel like I hit the jackpot. and now I just end up meeting people who are still addicting to gambling and looking for me to be their ‘get out of depression/debt/misery’ jackpot.