AskewLord

i have know plenty of women in long term happy stable relationships.

none of them are like that. they tell their husband/boyfriend what they want/need. and he gives it to them. and they are both happy. and he does the same with her. they also set… ground rules for the relationship and follow them.

it’s almost as if they see each other as reasonable people and act like reasonable people… and they are happy with that.

and the ladies who do the opposite, tell you that these happy ladies are all lairs and miserable and etc, or they just ‘got lucky’ and found husbands are just wonderful and perfect and flawless. shit’s wild, but the key factor is these women think they are not responsible for their themselves, that’s a man’s job to do for her.

haha, yeah this is why a lot of people are just giving up on dating game. you can’t win. everything you do is wrong.

buy her flowers and hold the door on a date ? that’s sexist! don’t buy her flowers and don’t hold the door, that’s sexist! so on and so on. a lot of folks are just… actively looking to be miserable and unhappy, rather than just set reasonable boundaries and expectations of what they want from the opposite sex.

in 2026, I’m supposed to support my potential partners by respecting their independent and strength, but also I’m suppose to be their provider and protector… and I’m supposed to be able to randomly switch roles at the drop of a pin based on how she is feeling at that very moment. and if i do not, I’m a horrible no good shitty man who doesn’t make her feel cared for, or I’m a horrible sexist asshole who doesn’t respect her independence and strength…

oh, by the way, if you explain how ridiculous this whole thing is to someone who expects it, they either call you a misogyny, or they just tell you how you ‘are not a real man’.

just like… why bother? pick one, or the other… or how about neither? just chill out and enjoy life and stop agonizing about everything! god forbid men and women just enjoy each other’s companionship without the endless need to measure every aspect of each other.

No. Power and history don’t matter in personal relationships. We are only responsible for ourselves as individuals.

Power and history only matter at the institutional level. Stop mistaking institutional issues, for individual’s behaviors. They are not at all linked.

thanks. you have just proven my point.

you think women can’t be sexist against men, and if I am pointing out that they can, I just want to be a victim. because if i call someone out on shitty behavior, it’s not that it’s them being shitty, it’s that I’m i want to be a big whiny baby… right.

and yes, misogyny is very real, and misandry cannot exist. there are no true misandrists, but misogyny is evidence abundant and wherever…

You are just deeply sexist and committed to your sexist beliefs, and are using them to bias-confirm that sexism is one ever men against women, or something absurdly and patently not true.

Are we also going to go further, and claim that women can’t be racist, because of power structures or something? so if a white lady goes on a tear about how all black men scary because she is afraid they are going to rape her, that’s totally not racist and sexist of her, it’s just her expressing a ‘legitimate concern for her safety’? Yeah, I’m sure you already think that.

oh right, sorry, no, actually that’s her ‘just being an asshole’. right? did I get it right now?

how convenient this entire argument is for you, and your sexist world view.

No. It’s not a ‘preference’ when you are actively denigrated and demeaning others.

A preference means I just don’t date them. I don’t find women with short hair, personally attractive. I don’t think women with short hair, are disgusting people unworthy of my consideration, nor do I feel the need to insult them, nor do I expect them to grow out their hair to become ‘worthy’ of me.

I just don’t date them. And I fully understand other people may find them attractive for the reasons I do not. They are still people to me, I don’t see any reason to mock, harass, or deride them as human beings for not meeting my sexual preferences.

Also, bullshit. Plenty of global leaders of the past 50 years have been women who were ruining the world. Ever heard of Margaret Thacher or Theresa May?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_elected_or_appointed_female_heads_of_state_or_government

all i’m getting from your comments here is an intense bias that if a woman does it, it’s fine, but if a man does it, it’s bad. you are just reinforcing the existing sexist bias.

Yep.

many people’s life purpose is to treat other people they don’t like shit, based on their perceived differences. and they will go out of their way to do like, harass random strangers over this shit. or just force every causal acquaintance of run this gantlet they have in their head of hatred and bias because they feel other people must ‘prove’ themselves to them.

no bro. they only did that because you are a misogynist, clearly! if only you didn’t hate women, they wouldn’t say these things to you.

Racists and sexists hide behind their ‘preferences’ to legitimize their hate.

Just flip the genders. If you heard men saying these things about women, would you think that is legtimate or that it’s gross and hateful? Why is it the case then, that such things are permissible if it’s women talking about men?

yes.

all you have to do is flip the genders, and it’s hate speech. imagine guys going on about how short women are disgusting and unworthy of them… they would be considered horrible people.

amen brother.

don’t worry though, tons of posters here who are leaning hard in on the misandry and hate, and think anyone who points out all this sexist bullshit just hates women. because if you ever call a lady out on her hateful ways, you just hate women.

it’s almost as if you should be friends with people who like you, and not friends with people who dislike you or whom you dislike.

when someone complains about how awful their friends are/make them feel, i ask them why they are friends then, and they usually tell me to go fuck myself. i don’t think i’ve ever dated a woman who actually liked her friends, so much as hated them and just wanted them to be jealous of her.