Macchi_the_Slime

Every damn time I think that one of these shitpost conspiracy theories is just too far fetched. Every. Goddamned. Time. These motherfuckers manage to do something that makes me reconsider whether or not there might be a point to it.

I like how rather than engaging with the comment where I apologized for the possibility that I might have unintentionally come off as antagonistic during my first reply to you and kickstarted this whole chain of events, you instead decided to go back to a comment you already replied to and just… continue posting through it about how I’m being hurtful and mean.

Maybe you should take a break and find a professional to talk to about all this hon. Or like… take a walk, go pet something fluffy, like… do anything but continue hitting the “Comment” button maybe? Either way, I’m done enabling this. Find someone else to rage at because they disagree with you and then say they’re attacking you when they defend themselves from you calling them an “ableist pos” “stupid cunt” “good slave” and implying that if they were in Rosa Parks’ shoes they’d have moved to the back of the bus just to name a few. Or again, is it okay when you do it because I apparently “attacked you first” when I didn’t even realize I could even have been being antagonistic and even apologized for coming off that way if that was how what I said came off to you.

I hope you can find peace. Because mine’s in the Block button. Have a nice life.

Kept attacking you? What are you talking about? All I did was ask you what good it does to come into a conversation about the difficulties in getting diagnosed with ADHD and basically just saying “Well maybe we shouldn’t diagnose it like that.” If I came off like I was attacking you, I’m sorry. That wasn’t what I was trying to do there. I was genuinely just confused at what the point was of that comment.

But then the very next thing you did pretty much was to imply that if I was in Rosa Parks’ shoes I’d have moved to the back of the bus. But I guess it’s not attacking people when you’re just “hitting back” huh?

Obviously I don’t have your entire story, and I’m prepared for you(edit:wanted to change my wording to be less accusatory) to immediately jump down my throat again for “defending psychatrists” for this. But you do know there’s also a chance that they just… didn’t have any more capacity at the ward at that time to provide the kind of care your SO needed right? Which is horrible, and I’m very sorry that the both of you went through that. But not everything is about psychiatrists wanting to push pills. There’s a very real chance that their capacity to care for in-patient suicide risks was maxed out and that really was all they could handle at that time. Would you rather they have taken her into the ward and not had proper supervision on her and something happened to her in there because they took in too many patients?

The healthcare system is deeply flawed, it sucks, there are bad actors all over it. But that doesn’t mean that everyone who shares a specialty with those bad actors is themselves also a bad actor. You might want to find someone to talk to about that experience, because it seems to have really deeply affected you.

The funniest thing to me is you calling me ableist because what? I don’t agree with you and called you out for LARPing at activism? I’m disabled, I’ve got 3 developmentally disabled kids, all with varying degrees of autism and ADHD, my partner is disabled to the point where even if I was personally physically able to work I couldn’t because she needs me available 24/7 to care for her.

Oh but no, I’m talking about engaging with the system as it exists as a neurodivergent person. That obviously must mean my only goal is to perpetuate the current system of wage slavery. Not to idk maybe help some people like me make it through their day without it taking literally every ounce of energy they have just to exist, let alone keep up with any of the demands of living like rent, food, etc.

So you don’t actually believe that medication can help people with ADHD at all, got it. There’s no other reason for you to make a disingenuous comparison like that. You can just say it, you aren’t going to hurt my feelings hon.

There’s a difference between “it’s not for everybody,” and “half of them can’t be trusted and the other half won’t believe you.”

Feel better now?

Then think about what you’re saying. If you actually believe that medication can be helpful, but then you go around saying things that can be easily misconstrued as “Half of them will ignore you, and the other half are shills for big pharma you shouldn’t trust them,” how can those two things coexist? How can you not see that those words are going to lead to people just deciding against even attempting to get on medication even if they might be among the group that it helps to not suffer in a society built around the convenience and function of neurotypicals?

Ah so you’re LARPing as a civil rights activist, got it.

You do realize that this right here isn’t “activism” right? That in reality I’m doing more activism by giving someone advice on how to navigate the world as it currently exists than you are by pretending that saying “Things should be better than they are” on a random ADHD Meme community is “activism” in any real sense of the word.

Ah yes, because it’s totally impossible that medication can help people with ADHD cope with a world that was set up for them to fail.

I’m not sure what you’re saying here.

Put simply, a large cohort of mental health providers will look at anyone asking about ADHD as if they are lying and just fishing for a prescription for stimulants. Especially if you look like you’re college age. So if you get unlucky with who you see when you finally go to get tested they might just take one look at you and decide “This person is looking for drugs” and ignore literally everything you present with because of it.

While it’s a lovely notion that maybe one day we might live in a world that doesn’t otherize and pathologize the way the minds of neurodivergent people function. Or that maybe one day the whole of society might not be organized around the convenience and function of neurotypical people and I would love for either of those would either of those to be the case. The fact of the matter is that this is not the world we currently live in. So if someone with ADHD or Autism wanted support from this society in the form of say medication, or therapy, then in most cases they would need to still engage with that system that pathologizes the way their minds work and acquire a diagnosis.

So what good does it do to come into a conversation about the flaws in that diagnostic process and essentially just say “Well, maybe it shouldn’t be like that.” as if anyone here is in any position to just wave a magic wand and change the diagnostic criteria in the next edition of the DSM?

You very well still could be. Diagnosing conditions like these is very complicated when different things can present similarly, or even mask each other depending on their presentation. Autism and ADHD have a lot of overlap for example where it’s not uncommon for someone to have one and be mistakenly diagnosed with the other because of how their particular combination of strengths and deficits manifested. Then still other conditions can mask symptoms entirely that without them no one would ever guess that someone might have ADHD.

That’s what happened to my wife in fact. She joined a research study that was aiming to improve diagnosis for ADHD looking to be part of the control because she was reasonably certain she didn’t have ADHD.

We come to find out through participating in that study that no, she did in fact have ADHD and her severe OCD had just been masking it all her life. The second she got on a new medication that got her OCD more under control I got a front row seat to literally watch the things I struggle every day with just manifest in her like I’d given her the damn Curse of the Were-Fuckup.

Putting the “Me” in monogamy I see.