Sure, this is a gross oversimplification, and SM is very wide; but the impact of two thousand years of Christianity really is very significant to the western psyche, even among the non-christian.

Things like being bad and deserving punishment or suffering leading to ascension are so close to christian concepts (sinning and hell, the passion of Christ) that it would be surprising for them not to be connected.

And there’s also christian influences in sexuality outside of SM obviously. Stuff like Temptation Island on TV, or just sex being “dirty” in general (as in, engaging in sex lowers one’s moral worth).

Sexual relations are the continuation of normal relations, making sexuality a mirror reflecting society. Findom reflects class relations, D/S reflects gender relations, SM reflects christianity, race play reflects racism, etc.

Being tired is normal, but if there’s one hope it is through collective action, not individualism. Any individual or family will inevitably lose against the overwhelming power of corporations or the state.

Step 1: make some kind of surveillance & control system that is voluntary

Step 2: make life for those who dont want it less convenient (you are here)

Step 3: make non-participation in the system be in itself suspicious and a cause for further investigation