My wife does this and it drives me insane because she’s only right about 60% and then I have to start over because I need to say the whole thought again.
The dissonance between “I know what you are talking about before you’ve finished” and “i can barely focus on what you are talking about” is astonishing. I absolutely feel you.
And yet, 60% of the times, my partner is wrong, because I haven’t finished talking. She looses focus because she thinks she knows, then interrupts, with a misunderstanding and then continues as if nothing has happened.
Both my wife and I do this to each other all the time. While we both do it, we still get annoyed when the other is doing it, because we are only right 60 % of the time or less.
I do this to my bf too. I don’t mean to. He does exactly what you do and also says I’m not right and I need to let him finish.
I then try to patiently wait for him to start over and get the whole thing, only to find out it was exactly what I thought he was saying to begin with. lol
I know it’s frustrating to talk to me. I’ve been told it all my life. I try hard not to do it, it happens involuntarily most of the time.
The first thing I taught my girlfriend was to listen instead of complete my sentences. At the time she was trying to make a living as a coach and failing at it to no surprise.
This is something I’ve very consciously tried to be correct my behavior on. It’s unfortunately and surprisingly hard to just shut up and let someone finish, but I’ve gotten a lot better at it. Now I find myself nodding and physically moving, ready to jump in the moment I can.
I work with one guy who is the worst at this. You can be in the middle of a sentence telling a story, and he’ll hijack it and pivot. He then will ramp up his volume as he talks to control the convo. It’s annoying, but I can empathize with him to an extent, and I don’t think he knows he’s doing it. It’s a tough line to walk sometimes.
My wife does this and it drives me insane because she’s only right about 60% and then I have to start over because I need to say the whole thought again.
The dissonance between “I know what you are talking about before you’ve finished” and “i can barely focus on what you are talking about” is astonishing. I absolutely feel you.
Dissonance?
And yet, 60% of the times, my partner is wrong, because I haven’t finished talking. She looses focus because she thinks she knows, then interrupts, with a misunderstanding and then continues as if nothing has happened.
Both my wife and I do this to each other all the time. While we both do it, we still get annoyed when the other is doing it, because we are only right 60 % of the time or less.
You don’t tho, and then you interrupt, and then I have to start over.
ADHD isn’t a super power. You can’t read minds.
ADHDers favorite sport: jumping to conclusions
WRONG. It’s jumping to conclusions.
;-)
Being psychic would save so much time
Reminds me of an old joke.
I do this to my bf too. I don’t mean to. He does exactly what you do and also says I’m not right and I need to let him finish.
I then try to patiently wait for him to start over and get the whole thing, only to find out it was exactly what I thought he was saying to begin with. lol
I know it’s frustrating to talk to me. I’ve been told it all my life. I try hard not to do it, it happens involuntarily most of the time.
The first thing I taught my girlfriend was to listen instead of complete my sentences. At the time she was trying to make a living as a coach and failing at it to no surprise.
Lol, same. And yet will rail on about people (especially me) making assumptions.
This is something I’ve very consciously tried to be correct my behavior on. It’s unfortunately and surprisingly hard to just shut up and let someone finish, but I’ve gotten a lot better at it. Now I find myself nodding and physically moving, ready to jump in the moment I can.
I work with one guy who is the worst at this. You can be in the middle of a sentence telling a story, and he’ll hijack it and pivot. He then will ramp up his volume as he talks to control the convo. It’s annoying, but I can empathize with him to an extent, and I don’t think he knows he’s doing it. It’s a tough line to walk sometimes.