My wife does this and it drives me insane because she’s only right about 60% and then I have to start over because I need to say the whole thought again.
The dissonance between “I know what you are talking about before you’ve finished” and “i can barely focus on what you are talking about” is astonishing. I absolutely feel you.
Dissonance?
I know what you are talking about before you’ve finished, [but you keep talking anyway so] i can barely focus on what you are talking about
And yet, 60% of the times, my partner is wrong, because I haven’t finished talking. She looses focus because she thinks she knows, then interrupts, with a misunderstanding and then continues as if nothing has happened.
Both my wife and I do this to each other all the time. While we both do it, we still get annoyed when the other is doing it, because we are only right 60 % of the time or less.
You don’t tho, and then you interrupt, and then I have to start over.
ADHD isn’t a super power. You can’t read minds.
ADHDers favorite sport: jumping to conclusions
ADHDers favorite spo
WRONG. It’s jumping to conclusions.
;-)
Being psychic would save so much time
Reminds me of an old joke.
Would people cut trees down if they could scream?
Omg, yes, absolutely. That would be the only way to shut them up.
I do this to my bf too. I don’t mean to. He does exactly what you do and also says I’m not right and I need to let him finish.
I then try to patiently wait for him to start over and get the whole thing, only to find out it was exactly what I thought he was saying to begin with. lol
I know it’s frustrating to talk to me. I’ve been told it all my life. I try hard not to do it, it happens involuntarily most of the time.
Lol, same. And yet will rail on about people (especially me) making assumptions.
The first thing I taught my girlfriend was to listen instead of complete my sentences. At the time she was trying to make a living as a coach and failing at it to no surprise.
This is something I’ve very consciously tried to be correct my behavior on. It’s unfortunately and surprisingly hard to just shut up and let someone finish, but I’ve gotten a lot better at it. Now I find myself nodding and physically moving, ready to jump in the moment I can.
I work with one guy who is the worst at this. You can be in the middle of a sentence telling a story, and he’ll hijack it and pivot. He then will ramp up his volume as he talks to control the convo. It’s annoying, but I can empathize with him to an extent, and I don’t think he knows he’s doing it. It’s a tough line to walk sometimes.
You didn’t understand, you assumed.
You don’t know all of us, you’re assuming based on preconceived notions.
You assume they don’t know all of you based on preconceived notions.
How many times does one have to understand, listen patiently anyway, and be proven correct 5 minutes later before it stops being an assumption?
be proven correct
ADHD is having difficulty focusing.
Hubris is assuming your inability to stay focused is some kind of precog superpower.
Annoying to deal with kids who insist “I know what you were going to say” one minute and “You didn’t tell me that!” the next. Infuriating to deal with adults who double down with therapy language.
ADHD is having difficulty focusing.
Isn’t it more having difficulty focusing for extended periods?
I’d say the phenomenon is more hyperfocusing long enough to figure out the point, and then getting frustrated as the speaker takes a long time to illustrate that point.
Isn’t it more having difficulty focusing for extended periods?
According to OP, they can’t even make it to the end of a sentence. shrug
I’d say the phenomenon is more hyperfocusing long enough to figure out the point,
and then getting frustrated as the speaker takes a long time to illustrate that point.
I definitely get feeling annoyed when someone rambles. And I get tuning out when a work presentation or a school lecture drags on. And I get feeling frustrated when a conversation or discussion is sidelined by minutiae.
But the “Um, aktuly, I don’t need to listen to this because I already know the answer” shit is extremely toxic behavior that inevitably sets people up to fail. If you’ve ever had to deal with student drivers before, it’s the way someone responds moments before they bend a fender.
Getting Overwhelmed is entirely different from Knowing The Answer In Advance.
I think you’re conflating a separate issue with the phenomenon OP depicted in the meme.
You assumed wrong … again.
The only thing you are doing is proving their point.
You understand less from the sentence being said than you think. You only assume you were correct because you also listened with half an ear to their explanation.
ADHD is having difficulty focusing.
Not really very accurate, but go off.
Every time. It doesn’t change with frequency. It’s the same every time
It sounds like you’re asking what the acceptable error rate is. I think that depends how much you respect the people that you don’t want to listen to.
What happens when you get it wrong or when they think you might get it wrong? Then you’ve just created a big scene, but it’s not just your problem, it’s their problem too.
You’ve misunderstood. I’m still listening, I’m just frustrated.
Trying to fast forward dialog in real life:
I don’t have adhd, but I want you gouge my eyes out when somebody tells me something long, i miss the last couple words, ask you repeat just the last 3 words and they start. All. Over. Again.
The only owl that is not superb
I’m still salty about that.
I posted a really nice ceramic bowl to /r/superbowl as an example of a “superb bowl” and it got removed and I was banned. They told me I didn’t get the joke.
I got the fucking joke. I was making another level of the joke.
I mostly rolled my eyes and moved on. but yeah… I’m still a little salty.
Your mistake was saying it was a superb bowl rather than a super bowl!
I may have said it was a super bowl. I don’t remember for sure. heh.
I checked the rules, and it says
Posts must be about owls.
So even “super bowl” wouldn’t have saved you. Perhaps a bowl with owls printed on it? It doesn’t say it can’t be about depictions of owls!
IIRC, it didn’t say that when I posted, which was quite a while ago. Or I missed it, but I think I remember checking. :)
If you still have the picture, I think the fediverse equivalent would get the joke XD
I’ll have to keep my eye out. heh. I probably do have the picture somewhere, buried in many years of such pictures. lol.
I dunno, this guy is pretty annoying as well!
Especially when you imply what part you missed in the question. Like if I asked “That last… what?”, to which you could just say “3 words”, but instead start “I don’t have ADHD, but I…”. Then, once you finally get to the “3 words”, you mumble it in the exact same way… Gah
Or they rephrase it like I didn’t get it.
No. It’s just I didn’t hear the last bit.
Then my brain turns off, thinking of something else, then I miss what they were actually trying to say, then they start over.
FUUUUUUUCK
I swear this community is a better diagnosis than my local GP
But we don’t take your insurance.
No need for insurance here my friend.
Glad to hear you’re in a sensible part of the world 💕
What it feels like to have a conversation with the person who made this meme and keeps getting it wrong.
An ADHD friends don’t let me finish. 2 time on 3 is wrong about what I was about to tell
Yeah I definitely have these tendencies and had to really work to stop interrupting. Sometimes the end is what I expected, and sometimes it’s quite a surprise. I can totally see why it would annoy someone to have a person finish their sentence, and incorrectly at that.
I do feel that my social interactions are much improved as I’ve gotten better with impulse control
Its like talking to a stupid AI. (When someone finishes my sentence but incorrectly) So frustrating. And the other thing that happens is I’m so astounded at the interruption I forget what I was getting at. My brain does not prioritize speed (I’m slow to process/respond sometimes) so I just can’t even do these kinds of conversations. I’m giving up, my contribution is clearly not needed for your conversation with yourself (I don’t mean YOU, I mean the theoretical person)
Anyway, ty for working on improving it, I know it’s an effort!
Well yeah but once I’ve made up my mind on the rest of your sentence, it’s not like I’m going to process your version in my head anyway
Nah, planks aren’t that bad really.
What about having no skin?
I’ve never tried that before, but it sounds problematic.
And more than a little sticky.
That tracks.
For you.
Probably fairly traumatic for whoever sees it too though.
Funny enough, some of this behavior is similar to normal Japanese conversations where everything is implied. XD. The other person is supposed to guess.
Yes, sometimes I need to be patient, even if I already know the rest. I try.
Other times people need to FINISH THEIR SENTENCE BEFORE I RETIRE!!!
You really want me to hear all of it? Then be more interesting, or at least faster! This is not always on me!
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This is me, but I’m also the one who takes forever to form a sentence
Thus, I appreciate it when someone finishes my sentences for me XD
“The excuses people make to justify their rudeness.”
“What it feels like being constantly cut off with incorrect assumptions.”
“What you look like when you assume someone else’s unfinished sentence incorrectly”
