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Anyone who is going through this, you have to try. You have to put effort into yourself and get used to rejection. It’s not fun but if it’s important to you then it’s important to show up.
I didn’t have my first kiss until 26. I have a wife and two kids. Just so you don’t think it was easy for me.
Can’t.
I spent my whole life being told to not be a creep, don’t just go up to women they don’t want random men approaching them, they’re at the club for a good time with friends, etc.
So that only leaves online dating and I’m not a 10/10 so never get a match.
My advice is to get off the internet and get involved with your community. Go to social events, not with the intent of finding somebody to date but with the intent of making friends and connections. Show up as yourself, don’t try to be somebody you aren’t in an attempt to impress, that’ll only mislead people.
Our society treats dating like job interviews, you get an hour tops to make a good impression on a total stranger. It works for some people who are naturally attractive whether it’s their looks or charisma and because that works for those people other people try to emulate that and get frustrated that it doesn’t work for them. Even if it does, that attraction is often superficial because it’s based on a false version of themselves.
In my experience it’s much easier for attraction to grow naturally between people who interact regularly and is more likely to last when those people are showing up as themselves from the beginning.
This is a huge deal. Truly. Male loneliness in particular is a swollen lithium battery ready to be poked. I doubt it will be addressed correctly. I have no idea how to fix it and infinite empathy for anyone, male or female, going through this.
Simple fix: AI will just be…better than humans, in the sense that it will be predictable and sycopantic to them, so humanity will de-grow fast.
The guy is a fucking bum. Why are so many people here trying to force positivity when the point is realizing he wasted his life. The point isn’t to twist it into some exercise in tolerance to smell your own farts. It’s ok to say “you bum”
Anon wasted their life by age 33 by working a job and not finding someone?
Yes, absolutely. I’m still tired of this acceptance of this type of acceptance because it translates into so many of you crying about being miserable the rest of your life. Well no shit you’re miserable if you accept low skill low wage jobs. There’s a point where this push for seeing positivity and acceptance of all things turns into something that is misleading. Young people see the attitude and adopt it. Next thing they’re 33 and still working these jobs and miserable.
