i’ve dated women who didn’t want me to touch/kiss them ever outside of sex. it was weird. i can imagine that some people tolerate that behaviour and just have a partner who never touches them. i will say they all had massive control/anxiety issues in other areas of their life as well. I’ve also had partners who hated certain sex acts that seemed perfectly fun/normal to me.
a lot of people have very strict beliefs about the context in which touch should occur even with romantic partners. or consider touch to be ‘dirty’
That’s valid but also kind of sad. I’ve dated ace before so I get that some people just aren’t wired for certain things. I but feel a little bad for people who can’t even have nonsexual contact free of shame, but maybe there’s a perspective I’m lacking. Just feels like shame should have no place in a relationship even if physical touch isn’t present either.
a lot of people don’t.
i’ve dated women who didn’t want me to touch/kiss them ever outside of sex. it was weird. i can imagine that some people tolerate that behaviour and just have a partner who never touches them. i will say they all had massive control/anxiety issues in other areas of their life as well. I’ve also had partners who hated certain sex acts that seemed perfectly fun/normal to me.
a lot of people have very strict beliefs about the context in which touch should occur even with romantic partners. or consider touch to be ‘dirty’
That’s valid but also kind of sad. I’ve dated ace before so I get that some people just aren’t wired for certain things. I but feel a little bad for people who can’t even have nonsexual contact free of shame, but maybe there’s a perspective I’m lacking. Just feels like shame should have no place in a relationship even if physical touch isn’t present either.
Some people just don’t like being touched. Sometimes it’s trauma, sometimes simple preference. It’s not always about shame
Sometimes it’s autism. Touch is a lot of sensory.