But even then (and that is how I make all of my non-work friends), I’m told it is uncouth to ask women out at these locations at all, as they just want to enjoy their hobby like everyone else, and there is legitimacy to that I completely understand that feeling and the last thing I’d want to do is make anyone uncomfortable. “But if she’s giving you signals-” or is she just being nice? Probably just being nice, safer to assume that than act on it and now everyone at the card table thinks I’m creepy and I have to find new friends.
The secret here is to not listen to the faceless crowd about never asking people out or whatever. Don’t be pushy but ultimately we have to talk to people in public if we’re sincerely interested, even if they “might” (who knows?) not want to be approached. Just have to accept if they reject, and move on.
I’m never pushy that’s for sure, always accept no for an answer. Like I said barely even give them the chance to say no cause I don’t ask lol. (That sounds bad, ykwim dammit!)
Maybe you’re right though, I should be less hesitant. Still hate to upset people if it can be avoided though.
Don’t get me wrong, I need to take my own advice more often, but here it continues: You can’t just worry about people getting upset if you try to talk to them. If they get upset, and you didn’t even physically touch them or pressure them to do anything, it’s probably not your fault (although could reflect on what to do different next time if you want) but that’s when to just move on. People “could” get upset about anything in the world. Don’t be forever alone because of the possibility of your existence upsetting someone
But even then (and that is how I make all of my non-work friends), I’m told it is uncouth to ask women out at these locations at all, as they just want to enjoy their hobby like everyone else, and there is legitimacy to that I completely understand that feeling and the last thing I’d want to do is make anyone uncomfortable. “But if she’s giving you signals-” or is she just being nice? Probably just being nice, safer to assume that than act on it and now everyone at the card table thinks I’m creepy and I have to find new friends.
The secret here is to not listen to the faceless crowd about never asking people out or whatever. Don’t be pushy but ultimately we have to talk to people in public if we’re sincerely interested, even if they “might” (who knows?) not want to be approached. Just have to accept if they reject, and move on.
I’m never pushy that’s for sure, always accept no for an answer. Like I said barely even give them the chance to say no cause I don’t ask lol. (That sounds bad, ykwim dammit!)
Maybe you’re right though, I should be less hesitant. Still hate to upset people if it can be avoided though.
Don’t get me wrong, I need to take my own advice more often, but here it continues: You can’t just worry about people getting upset if you try to talk to them. If they get upset, and you didn’t even physically touch them or pressure them to do anything, it’s probably not your fault (although could reflect on what to do different next time if you want) but that’s when to just move on. People “could” get upset about anything in the world. Don’t be forever alone because of the possibility of your existence upsetting someone
Fair enough lol, I’ll take a few more shots here and there!
same…