Really tbh the best part is the assumption “oh you have trouble finding a committed relationship? Must be because you literally do absolutely nothing and have no hobbies at all, you’re probably the only one who has figured out stasis.” Like what do you think I just go into a coma? Sure work and sleep takes up a good majority of my time like anyone else but then after that I simply cease to exist until my next shift?

I’m also gonna go ahead and push back on the whole “give up” thing (and don’t let me fool you, I have given up lol, but), women do not make the first move most of the time, if I expect to get any dates I’m gonna have to be the one to ask. Literally only one woman has ever asked me out (and I said yes I’d love to, and she short circuited and walked away without another word like “cool does Friday work for you” or any of the normal things you or I might say to a yes.) I have followed the “give up” advice but that doesn’t mean I’m expecting to actually find love this way, I’m expecting to die alone and get eaten by my cats, I just hope I can provide them enough sustenance they can get rescued when my neighbors start smelling my body. Not exactly romantic but it’s easier than dealing with the current dating climate (which everyone acknowledges is a nightmare until a guy says it, then he’s an incel.)

And even if you’ve given up, looking forward to that future can still make you sad, you’re still allowed to want to love and be loved, such is the human condition.