• kartoffelsaft@programming.dev
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    3 days ago

    I won’t claim this is nearly the same magnitude of issue but this comment reads like a “what was she wearing” type of comment. You’re presuming a particular perpetrator and victim and immediately doubting a portrayal and envisioning your own because they don’t agree.

    I’ll just say that, many of the times I have opened up to some people, I have come to regret doing so. And no, the stress was not “I said something racist and everyone hates me now”. I won’t detail beyond that for obvious reasons, but I know where the sentiment comes from.

    • Blibly@lemmy.world
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      3 days ago

      this comment reads like a “what was she wearing” type of comment

      You already know you shouldn’t be making that comparison. How awful.

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        Why would you presume what triggers another person or not? You are virtue-signaling. We get it, you are a new age feminist. Old school feminists realized that they need equality. New age want men to suffer. Don’t worry, we suffer. In quiet. And your questions “feel” exactly like asking “what was she wearing”.