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And the moment men share everything, women are all “over sharing gives me the ick. I just want a man who will do as he’s told”
Or they just aren’t listening
A man would be lucky to have a woman who is perfectly fine with him expressing emotions on occasions.
Or we are ‘scary’ if we get mad about anything.
Are we on 9gag ?
I got bullied by other kids and manipulated by adults when I was a kid because of what I told them about myself. I learned be to highly selective with what I shared about myself to people who could make things difficult for me.
That and or nobody gave a shit
This is divisive content that uses stereotypes to incite gender wars. I hate it. I want it to go back to reddit. If this speaks to you personally in an annoying way then I suggest dealing with those particular people that annoy you and leaving the billions of others of that gender out of it. This is gender war bullshit.
Does this bot only post in couple memes and mod couple memes?
Blocked.
I work in tech. No one cares about my updates to the client SDK. It would make for boring dinner conversation and it’s not like there is office gossip…I work from home. Do you want to hear about my chat about updates to the corporate PPT deck to illustrate the new logical flow of connectivity? Because marketing was on that call and they didn’t care either.
I don’t have the luxury of working from home, but def feel this as a tech guy in a no - tech family.
No one cares about how I found some crusty old code that was not at all optimized that I trimmed an order of magnitude off its run time, nor how I fixed some dumb debugging logic a coworker inserted that caused a race condition once in a while; hell basically no one would understand unless I explained ELI5 style.
The especially hard part is that the dynamic OP is meme-ing on is the reverse of me and my fiancé (I’m the male and I want to talk, she’s the female and wants to forget she even has a job the moment she’s out of the office).
Actually they might (in my experience) be interested enough to listen if you can dumb it down enough: e.g. I found this thing that wasn’t very well written and I re-wrote it and now it runs 1,000 times faster. You probably need to ELI5 to manglement anyway, so why not for the family too? Hopefully they’ll respond to your enthusiasm if nothing else.
Your dynamic is perhaps different, but you do have the empathy (or whatever) to know that it’s different.
Tell me about that SDK. Which technology do you use? What do you think about the latest supply chain attacks?
Finally someone who gets ME! I maintain the Go SDK and leverage Snyk and GitHub to perform dependency checks. I’m mostly using the standard library but I like feeling like I have someone over my shoulder double checking things. I maintain the things built on top of the SDK as well like the Terraform provider so it’s really nice having the foundation and the building. No one else cares but I rewrote the back off/retry logic this week so folk don’t overload the API. Supply chain attacks are scary. I run as few dependencies as I can without having to reinvent the wheel. I’ve have spent so much time double checking package signing and key security it’s insane.
Oh my god I know exactly what you mean. Even when I’m more of a terraform user. I’ve been interested in go for a while, but my last boss, who was a giant jerk, wanted me to check it, so I decided to go for rust instead.
Fick dich, Christian!
I didn’t dive deep yet, because my daily business is Java/Kotlin and C#, but it seems nice.
Contribute to any open source software today?
OSS always gets people hot and bothered.
Everything I do for the company is on the public GitHub and GPLed. Not overly useful to anything other than our product suite but it feels good to have it all open source. I used to contribute to Linux PAM but it’s been a good long time. Nowadays I just submit the random merge request for bug fixes. One day I shall retire and contribute to the networking stack. One day….
I’d rather her about your updates to the client SDK than Linda’s harrowing struggle with finding the right brand of cornflakes.
I really feel that last statement. Our company has been working on internationalization for years and I’ve told my management at least 3 times what we have left for the portion of our product. It still hasn’t been prioritized and now I’m in meetings about internationalization for the company and it’s a waste of my time.
And yet I see so many comments about how men drone on and on about their day and don’t even ask how their SO’s day went. Apparently groups of people with an easily identifiable trait are actually individuals - who knew? I wonder if Boomers also aren’t all the same. Maybe even Gen-Xers! What an insight - best day ever!!!
What? No! Down with this nonsense. Next thing you’ll be saying immigrants aren’t all murderers and rapists!
/s just in case
You know that scene at the beginning of Star Trek IV when Spock walks up to a computer terminal and it’s asking him rapid fire questions about philosophy and chess and bovine dentistry and he’s instantly acing them all and then it asks him “How do you feel?” He doesn’t say a single word, he fundamentally doesn’t get the question.
And then he goes on an epic time travel adventure with his best friends, chokes a punk on the bus, mind melds with a pregnant whale, and saves the fucking day.
And then at the end of the movie, he says “Tell my mother I feel fine.”
That’s how it works.
That’s because men are rarely listened to.
I’ve heard plenty of stories of men finally opening up to their partners just for her to leave him because she “lost the spark” or “can’t look at him the same way” or some other shit.
I’m disabled. I can’t tell you how many friendships have ended when I complained about something. Literally anything. Like, the weather. People expect us to be bubbly, happy, cheerful, all the fucking time. It is so godsdamned exhausting.
Stories from whose side? What were the feelings that were discussed? How did the women react and how was that reaction taken by the men? Really not enough to go on here which is why we shouldn’t rely on internet stories to form opinions.
I won’t claim this is nearly the same magnitude of issue but this comment reads like a “what was she wearing” type of comment. You’re presuming a particular perpetrator and victim and immediately doubting a portrayal and envisioning your own because they don’t agree.
I’ll just say that, many of the times I have opened up to some people, I have come to regret doing so. And no, the stress was not “I said something racist and everyone hates me now”. I won’t detail beyond that for obvious reasons, but I know where the sentiment comes from.
this comment reads like a “what was she wearing” type of comment
You already know you shouldn’t be making that comparison. How awful.
Why would you presume what triggers another person or not? You are virtue-signaling. We get it, you are a new age feminist. Old school feminists realized that they need equality. New age want men to suffer. Don’t worry, we suffer. In quiet. And your questions “feel” exactly like asking “what was she wearing”.
lol
Bullshit
Please, tell us more about how women can do no wrong and why it’s always the men’s fault.
You know as well as anyone else that if someone was relating a story online about a woman getting mistreated by a man, then no one would question it and anyone who did would get called a misogynist for not believing the story.
You’re right men are the real victims lmfao
That’s completely distorting what I said while ignoring the context of the conversation.
It’s not a zero-sum game or a competition. It’s not “only men or women can be victims, but not both.” Men can be victims. That doesn’t contradict the fact that women can be victims too.
The difference is that you’re here specifically to invalidate and discredit the things men are saying about their own experiences, in a thread about men not opening up about their experiences, after men commented saying that they get invalidated any time they open up about their experiences.
You’re proving their points quite thoroughly. Way to go.
This happened to me personally. I opened up exactly once, her temperament changed immediately and we broke up less than a month later.
Damn dude You should stop doing that opening up thingy Suck it up like a real man
Your first comment here showed you’re not here in good faith. Not engaging.
You’re literally engaging now 😃
Man, you’ve gotta find yourself someone who will listen. Wife and I do “check-ins” 2 or 3 times a week. A chance to talk about what we’re focusing on our worried about. It helps a lot, both ways.
I’m not saying it’s not possible, but it’s rare. And your spouse/partner is only one person. Daily non romantic interactions also count.
🙄
edit: 🥱
Thanks for proving their point!
y’all never have anything interesting to say lol
Not to mention the whining man is clearly being listened to and empathized with by all of you. That actually proves my point.
Gee, I wonder why men never open up to you 🙄
🙄
Whiniy little pissbaby lol
You’re a bad person.
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I’ve already lived my day I have no desire to relive it.
This is one generalized stereotype that fully applies to my wife and me.
My chronically fatigued AuDHD ass barely has the mental energy to finish listening to her stories, much less somehow taking my internal state and synthesizing that into human speech.
Fortunately, the upside to her being the extrovert is that she maintains our relationships with friends so that I get to have a normal-looking existence.
We have to be very careful when listening to a story. Any slightly wrong reaction, and all the anger felt toward Joanie in Accounting can be instantly redirected against the listener. It’s a tightrope walk.
Not all of us are Geralt of Rivia.
“How was your day, sweetie?”
“Hmm…” grunts
“Fuck”
“Looks like rain”
Some of us go Paaam-paraaaam!
I remember reading about this in a couple’s book, and I’m paraphrasing.
Men have been conditioned to rethink about events in terms of its conclusion.
Women have been conditioned to rethink about events in terms of the moment-to-moment.
So often, our answers are like… “eh it was fine.”
I’m pretty sure you can’t confirm that I was alive today.
I mean what more do you really need to know?
But, I am alive. Right this moment, that could be a big deal. I have a mysterious blood disorder that one of the best hospitals in the world (Massachusetts General) can’t figure out.
