• Blibly@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    Stories from whose side? What were the feelings that were discussed? How did the women react and how was that reaction taken by the men? Really not enough to go on here which is why we shouldn’t rely on internet stories to form opinions.

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      I won’t claim this is nearly the same magnitude of issue but this comment reads like a “what was she wearing” type of comment. You’re presuming a particular perpetrator and victim and immediately doubting a portrayal and envisioning your own because they don’t agree.

      I’ll just say that, many of the times I have opened up to some people, I have come to regret doing so. And no, the stress was not “I said something racist and everyone hates me now”. I won’t detail beyond that for obvious reasons, but I know where the sentiment comes from.

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        this comment reads like a “what was she wearing” type of comment

        You already know you shouldn’t be making that comparison. How awful.

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          Why would you presume what triggers another person or not? You are virtue-signaling. We get it, you are a new age feminist. Old school feminists realized that they need equality. New age want men to suffer. Don’t worry, we suffer. In quiet. And your questions “feel” exactly like asking “what was she wearing”.

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      Please, tell us more about how women can do no wrong and why it’s always the men’s fault.

      You know as well as anyone else that if someone was relating a story online about a woman getting mistreated by a man, then no one would question it and anyone who did would get called a misogynist for not believing the story.

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          That’s completely distorting what I said while ignoring the context of the conversation.

          It’s not a zero-sum game or a competition. It’s not “only men or women can be victims, but not both.” Men can be victims. That doesn’t contradict the fact that women can be victims too.

          The difference is that you’re here specifically to invalidate and discredit the things men are saying about their own experiences, in a thread about men not opening up about their experiences, after men commented saying that they get invalidated any time they open up about their experiences.

          You’re proving their points quite thoroughly. Way to go.

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      This happened to me personally. I opened up exactly once, her temperament changed immediately and we broke up less than a month later.